Not too long ago, I spent my life “planning my life”
A snapshot of a typical day:
Check off the to-do’s on my never ending list, schedule and attend meetings, where we talk and then plan to schedule more meetings. Plan my goals, my lunches, my budgets, my weekend plans, plan out time TO plan (how crazy is that?!) It was exhausting, and I wasn't accomplishing much.
A conversation with a friend set me straight when he bluntly told me: What are you doing? You're remarkably efficient, you sure have figured that out, now let's actually make you effective. That stung a little, but I got the point.
I started on a quest to do things that actually mattered. To be EFFECTIVE. I started a "don't care" list. (It's not a plan-ok! haha) I started doing the difficult work first, and not caring if my life was a little disheveled and unplanned. I found things straightened themselves out for the most part, and I didn't really forget as much as I thought I would.
I realized I needed to let go of controlling little things, in order to have the mental bandwidth to care and execute on the big things. Are you sabotaging your own effectiveness because of your concern for the minutia of life? Let's actually not do that anymore ;)
Nothing is less productive than to make more efficient what should not be done at all. — Peter Drucker