"I am not malicious or trying to hurt you. If I do hurt you, it was unintentional. Perhaps thoughtless or selfish but not calculated"
"You mean me no harm. You are not malicious, or trying to hurt me. If you do hurt me, it was unintentional. Perhaps thoughtless or selfish but not calculated "
My little sister was ranting about a friend who had upset her. She was adamant that this person was “mean, awful, cruel” You get the picture. I asked her a question which dissolved her rant almost instantly.
“Do you think she meant to hurt you? Is she just delighted you feel this way?
Most people don’t wake up planning ways to make your day miserable. Really, they don't.
What would our world look like if we believed this about each other?