Real work

Real work, is bringing value to the world, not just doing what your boss tells you to do. Real work is seeing needs for other people and filling those. It's not pushing papers or punching a time clock. Real work is creating something that will benefit others. Something they will value and appreciate.

But to do real work you have to care. You have to care about people, and creating change. You have to want to and work to matter.

Please try to understand

If I say to you, “I’m sad”  Do you actually know what I’m feeling?

We have words to describe different emotions, but there’s really no way to fully know how each individual person experiences them. We can only sympathize so far. When a friend is upset, we can imagine how we would feel in that situation, but we may not be picturing it correctly. We have different capacities for handling stress and emotional disruption. So we literally “feel” things differently. This can be unfortunate because when you are trying to sympathize with a friend, you could act either too calloused or overly sensitive.

The best way to compensate for that is to avoid projecting your own emotions into the situation, seek to understand, and let them create the picture for you as they talk and you listen.

And even if you never fully “get it” Your loved ones will appreciate your genuine effort toward understanding and that in itself will help to encourage them.

Completely Consistent

Be consistent. It's incredibly difficult to do, but if you can cultivate that in yourself, people will notice. We will feel safe around you because we know what to expect, and we will respect you for that. Even if we disagree with what you believe and practice, if you're consistent,  we will appreciate that we know and understand exactly who you are, what you stand for, and why.