It’s all you

We often share our frustrations and woes with those we are close to. This can be beneficial to get the advice and encouragement of others, but we cannot rely too much on others to help with our problems. Quite often, when we are unsatisfied with something about ourselves and our lives, we are the only person who can make any changes or make things better. If it’s circumstances that we can’t change, then we are the only person who can decide to change our attitude and come to terms with the situation

If it’s something that we do have control over, then we are the only person who can decide to make the steps necessary to fix or resolve the issue.

Friends, family, and advisors can all be extremely helpful as catalysts for change, but we have to move ourselves if we actually want things to improve. No one else can do that for us. That’s an encouraging principle as well as a scary one. We do have the ability to control our actions and to improve our lives, but with that comes the responsibility to not complain about our lives, and instead take the actions necessary to create the change

It's not you, It's me.....

Excuses are common when people leave a job or a significant other. Rarely does a disgruntled employee or boyfriend give his real reason for leaving. (Unless they have a fiery temper and just want to get revenge by spouting off.)

We all tend to avoid painful or confrontational moments, and it’s all too easy to fabricate some silly reason which everyone knows is illegitimate, to avoid having to address the real issues.

It takes unselfish, objective consideration to gently share what went wrong when you’re already on your way out the door. You won’t benefit from the new policies or the changed attitude, but you are giving your aggravator the opportunity to understand what went wrong and then to (hopefully) not repeat that mistake.