It's not you, It's me.....

Excuses are common when people leave a job or a significant other. Rarely does a disgruntled employee or boyfriend give his real reason for leaving. (Unless they have a fiery temper and just want to get revenge by spouting off.)

We all tend to avoid painful or confrontational moments, and it’s all too easy to fabricate some silly reason which everyone knows is illegitimate, to avoid having to address the real issues.

It takes unselfish, objective consideration to gently share what went wrong when you’re already on your way out the door. You won’t benefit from the new policies or the changed attitude, but you are giving your aggravator the opportunity to understand what went wrong and then to (hopefully) not repeat that mistake.

What I Learned From No.

We all have moments in our lives where we think “I’m so glad my mother never let me do that ” Whether it was playing video games all day, dropping out of school at 13, or riding your bicycle without a helmet. Whatever, it was, we can all be grateful for a mother’s wisdom and guidance. So thanks Mom for not letting me............

buy Jeans for $50. That taught me to spend my money wisely.

Have whatever I saw in the checkout line. You taught me to avoid impulse buying.

Have a boyfriend at age 12. I learned that dating should be purposeful and serious.

  • Take whatever medication prescribed by the doctor. It taught me to research and ask questions.
  •   Eat junk food to my hearts content
  • Go tanning
  • Leave my room a mess
  • Wear makeup at 8 years old
  • Drive with teenagers
  • Stay up all night on the weekends
  • Gossip
  • Watch hours of television
  • Swear

Thanks Mom for not letting me Say, Do, Eat, Go, Wear, Watch, or Experience, anything that I wanted, whenever I wanted. It set me up for success in making my own decisions.

So here’s to my mom and the times she said No!