Don't fool yourself

Part 1. "Be brutally honest with your present circumstances and wildly unrealistic about your future."Thanks to Jon Acuff for this quote that I've been thinking about. I want to break it down into two parts. The second part will come later this week.

"Be brutally honest about your present circumstances:"

We can all agree that if we don’t know our present circumstances it would be difficult to change them. Unfortunately, we can easily practice self deception where we fool ourselves into believing we're better than we actually are, and lull ourselves into a false sense of security. This is harmful because not only do we not have a clear picture of where we actually are, we also aren't motivated to change because we've convinced ourselves that everything is pretty much okay.  This is dangerous. Change happens only once you recognize there's a problem, that's the first step. So don't lie to yourself, the only person it hurts is you.

It’s not fair to ruin their day too!

We can all agree that getting stuck in traffic, spilling coffee on our new dress, burning ourself with the hair curler; all these things can affect our mood to where we are irritated and easily provoked.

These mistakes and vexations were not the fault of a person. Yet we project our problems onto people. When we’re tired and hungry, or have been through said circumstances, we’ll be short and rude with people who had nothing to do with it. We’ll speak sharply to our children; lose patience quickly with our spouse and overall drag everyone else through the mud with us.

This is simply unacceptable. We need to have the self control not to take our anger and frustration out on innocent bystanders.The people around us are innocent of trying to sabotage an already terrible day.

On another note, the people we care about will be much more sympathetic and likely to help us get through our mishaps if we can separate our circumstances from them and keep those ugly emotions to ourself!