There are good or bad consequences to every action however small. After eating a cookie or jogging a mile, you won’t see immediate results. However each of those cookies and each of those steps in your sneakers were moving you (however slowly) towards or away from something. Towards health or away from it. Each and every choice we make moves us closer or further from our desired lifestyle or character. My guess is that if we had the foresight to make every decision based on future consequences of that decision, we would all make better choices.
I once heard someone say that having a child is like having a piece of your heart walk outside of your body. What a picture of how closely a mother’s life is intwined with her child’s! There is very little that compares to the grief a mother experiences when her baby is struggling. She is fiercely protective of her child, and every hurt he experience, hurts her still more. If he chooses to make bad decisions that break her heart, it’s like watching her own body self destruct and having no power to stop it.
Having a child is saying yes to many wonderful things like life and joy, yet also saying yes to the possibility of heartbreak. We should all recognize and appreciate the risk that our mother took when she decided to take a chance on sacrifice, worry, and hurt, to bring you into the world.
Has it been a good gamble for her?
This is a truth that revolutionized my life. "Humans only have the ability to make a certain number of good decisions per day." When you are tired, your cognitive brain doesn't function as well, and you start to make bad decisions. By that point you've exhausted your mental capacity for that day. That's why a lot of binge eating happens late at night, that's why when you get home after a hard day you order takeout for dinner. So the solution is, not to resign yourself and just make bad decisions, but to limit the number of decisions you have to make each day by setting systems and habits in place.
Hopefully, now that you're aware that you are literally burning up brain cells deliberating, you may spend less time and energy on things that could be put on autopilot. Try implementing routines that create habits, so you automatically make good decisions, and never run out of brain power!
We all have moments in our lives where we think “I’m so glad my mother never let me do that ” Whether it was playing video games all day, dropping out of school at 13, or riding your bicycle without a helmet. Whatever, it was, we can all be grateful for a mother’s wisdom and guidance. So thanks Mom for not letting me............
buy Jeans for $50. That taught me to spend my money wisely.
Have whatever I saw in the checkout line. You taught me to avoid impulse buying.
Have a boyfriend at age 12. I learned that dating should be purposeful and serious.
- Take whatever medication prescribed by the doctor. It taught me to research and ask questions.
- Eat junk food to my hearts content
- Go tanning
- Leave my room a mess
- Wear makeup at 8 years old
- Drive with teenagers
- Stay up all night on the weekends
- Watch hours of television
Thanks Mom for not letting me Say, Do, Eat, Go, Wear, Watch, or Experience, anything that I wanted, whenever I wanted. It set me up for success in making my own decisions.
So here’s to my mom and the times she said No!
So often people perceive God as an overbearing parent or a dictator who doesn't want them to enjoy life, or have any fun. The standards and guidelines that we follow seem to squelch all good times and interesting experiences. A couple thoughts on this: First off, God could have created us as robots who were unable to do anything contrary to his will. Yet, he allowed us the freedom to choose how we would behave. Dictators typically force everyone to obey them.
Secondly, almost all children at some point thought their parents wishes and commands to be outrageous, overbearing, and ridiculous. As a child we wanted to do what we thought was best. (8 year old wanting to do backflips off a bicycle) now looking back, we are thankful our parents imposed rules and regulations for us to follow because they were for our own good. We didn't understand the repercussions of our actions, and were hardly wise enough to make good decisions about our safety or any number of issues.
This is what God does for us! He has given us guidelines and commands to follow that are like a manual for the human body. Think about it, if God created this body then obviously he knows what is best for it, and under what circumstances it will function optimally. Would you question the manufacturing company of Toyota cars as to whether you really need an oil change? of course not! They know what 's best and we trust them. We are allowed to do whatever we want, but we choose to follow the recommended course in order for things to work well.
God has placed these laws for us to follow so that we are functioning at our highest potential. He as a concerned parent, watches out for us and our well being. He in his wisdom withholds things that would be detrimental long term, and gives us that which will help us to grow in every way healthy, strong and saintly.