Why Woman Stay

Love is powerful, and can be a marvelous thing, but it can also destroy you. Domestic violence is so disturbing that even those of us hardened by gruesome battle scenes from movies, when we see violence from a man to a woman he supposedly loves depicted on screen, we are repulsed and shocked. Man was designed to protect, to be strong, fearless and powerful. Those were assets he was given to bestow his love and protection on the weaker frame of a female. That’s why we all love the old romantic movies where the hero races after the damsel in distress to rescue her. We love to see men use their power for good.

Yet those gifts are sometimes twisted, and distorted into something horrifying. When a man turns those forces toward the woman that trusted him to protect her, that’s sickening.

There are many woman who are victims of this, and yet they stay with the man who hurts them. It seems baffling, but then I heard a woman who was physically abused for years give a speech. What she said cleared up the mystery of why woman continue to endure abuse.  She said “I didn’t think I was abused. I thought; this is a sick man, and I’m the only one who can help him.” She loved him so much that she was trying to help him while he was destroying her.

Sadly, this thinking although it’s clearly self deceiving and incorrect, it isn’t uncommon. There are many more women just like her. Women who are afraid to stand up for themselves, afraid to betray their loved one and afraid to move on to a better life.

We pity them, but we can do more than that. We can help these women by working to educate and empower them; educate so they’ll have the wisdom to leave, and empower so they’ll have the courage to.