An odd way to motivate yourself to start

Do you have trouble starting something?

A great way to encourage action in yourself is to start writing your to-do list differently.

Don’t write yourself “reminders” that you have to sort through to understand.

You will find yourself starting projects and tasks faster, if you write your to-do list in active language

instead of passive language.

Using a verb will help to compel you to action.

The action is so clear it feels more like a command than a suggestion.

So keep in mind that your to-do list isn't a reminders list, but an action list!

PS.  If the action word isn’t compelling enough, change it to a stronger verb

Please try to understand

If I say to you, “I’m sad”  Do you actually know what I’m feeling?

We have words to describe different emotions, but there’s really no way to fully know how each individual person experiences them. We can only sympathize so far. When a friend is upset, we can imagine how we would feel in that situation, but we may not be picturing it correctly. We have different capacities for handling stress and emotional disruption. So we literally “feel” things differently. This can be unfortunate because when you are trying to sympathize with a friend, you could act either too calloused or overly sensitive.

The best way to compensate for that is to avoid projecting your own emotions into the situation, seek to understand, and let them create the picture for you as they talk and you listen.

And even if you never fully “get it” Your loved ones will appreciate your genuine effort toward understanding and that in itself will help to encourage them.

Good Questions

Questions are important to stimulate conversation and to encourage others to open up. A good question can reveal an answer within the question. It can bring about breakthroughs for people, it can create connection, and it can show your interest in the other person. Some questions to use:

  • What do you love most about what you do?
  • What does a typical day look like for you?
  • What’s your biggest frustration in your job?
  • What are areas you feel you excel in?
  • What do you do on your commute?

Other good phrases to use

  • How does that look?
  • How does that make you feel?
  • Tell me more about that

What are some questions you have learned to ask?