Give and Take

Sometimes you give love - sometimes you reciprocate affection already offered Sometimes you give gifts - sometimes you appreciate as you receive them

Sometimes you serve - sometimes you say thank you as you’re served.

Both sides of the equation are important but one has to come before the other. My hope is that you take initiative to create more love and joy in the world while still benefitting from what’s already there.

What to do when facing the doldrums of life

Exercise- Those “feel good” endorphins can help to calm and relax you. Sleep- Sometimes issues can seem too overwhelming and exhausting. You’re not helping matters by fretting, so sometimes the best plan is to just sleep. Even if it’s the middle of the day, take a short nap.  It will give your emotions time to recharge since sleeping forces you to take a break from being all worked up.

Pray- The song “What a friend we have in Jesus” talks about “oh what peace we often forfeit, oh what needless pain we bear, all because we do not carry, everything to God in prayer” So often we are quick to share with anyone who will listen about the trials and struggles we are facing, while we forget to cry out to the One who cares most. The One who can actually affect the situation, in His timing, with His wisdom and power.

Cry- Sometimes it just takes a good cry to clear out all the pent up emotion and tension. It’s actually healthy and therapeutic to occasionally have a good nose blowing, tissue session.

Clean or work on something else -  You may not be able to control the situation at hand, but there are things still within your control. Pick something to do that helps you feel accomplished and put together, whether it’s vacuuming, scrubbing, doing some gardening, writing a letter.

Buy a gift- Buy a gift for a random friend and write her a nice card. You’ll get excited about this act of love and focusing on someone else.  This can create a little fun for you and become a highlight for someone else.

Work- Working with your hands, somehow alleviates the mind. I’m not sure why, but it helps, so you'll just have to trust me on that one.

Distract- Watch a movie or read a book. Do it and don’t feel guilty about it.  Sometimes distractions can help to put things in perspective when your mind returns to the problem.

My Birthday Gift to Me

When I was in grade school I had over 30 'PenPals'. I received almost 3 letters a day! Needless to say I was a prolific writer/conversationalist. Up to this year, I had saved every letter. As a project for my eighteenth birthday, I mailed hundreds of letters back that I'd received. Those letters contained girlish dreams, likes and dislikes, experiences and challenges from each friend growing up. It was an incredible opportunity for me to give those memories back. It was also a way for me to reconnect with some friends from the past, and thank them for the happiness they had brought me. Those childish scrawls were first important to me because of the relationship they established, and they're now cherished because they provide each friend with a link to the past. Those friends had blessed me while growing up, and I was able to do the same for them by returning a piece of their childhood.

My birthday gift I gave myself, was the chance to say thanks. We all have people that should hear that, and more often too.What better time than on your birthday??