I can’t? Or I haven’t?

I thought I couldn’t tie a balloon. Until yesterday. What changed? Well there was no one else around to tie the balloon for me, and so I figured it out.

How often do we say “I can’t” instead of “I haven’t yet.” It wasn’t that I couldn’t tie a balloon (obviously) it was that I hadn’t ever needed to.

When there are silly things that we should know how to do, but we haven’t learned yet. Instead of saying “cant” say, “I haven’t had the opportunity to learn that or I haven’t mastered that yet”

Using can’t is an improper use of the English language. Think about it. If someone asked you whether you had skydived before, you wouldn’t say “ I can’t skydive” you would say “I’ve never been skydiving” How would you know if you could do it, if you have never tried, or even if you have tried, its very rare that you physically can’t, you just haven’t mastered it yet.

The simple switch of how you say things can impact your thinking dramatically and help you to be more positive about your own abilities.

How to Create a Good Mood

Emotions are fickle creatures, and difficult to control. But there are ways to pick yourself up instead of wallowing in the muck. It requires a conscious choice to feel better about a situation.

Start by rationalizing why it was okay. aka. look at the bright side. So if someone bleaches your favorite shirt, well think of how fun it will be finding a new favorite! Or you get a speeding ticket, well you are donating to the police force. In every situation, there are potential lessons to be learned, or there are benefits in some way. If you couldn’t go to the movies because you couldn’t find a babysitter, well you got to read books to your kids instead. Some people drive us absolutely crazy with envy because they always seem happy! Either they’re good liars, or they’ve learned the discipline to joyfulness. They look for the little patches of sunshine scattered throughout the dark valley, or the yummy chocolate chips in that horrible homemade carrot cake. Your turn: look for the positive and you will find it!