A scary place to sit

If you're competent with something you should move on. If you aren’t feeling discomfort and uncertainty with what you're doing, then most likely you should be doing something more difficult. Competence is nice, but a scary place to sit. You are capable of more than that. You should always be moving forward, and if you stop too long to enjoy competence, then you stop growing. On the other hand, discomfort and unfamiliarity is where you grow the most. You should (within reason) seek out that feeling of discomfort because it is stretching you.

And when you are stretched; when you do more than you’ve ever done, and better than you’ve ever done, thats where you will feel achievement and success

It's time to celebrate!

Celebrating our achievements is important. It encourages and motivates us to keep on striving! While It’s natural for us to be excited about accomplishments we sometimes feel bad talking about it because others can think it's self promotion. But sharing your success story with others is a huge part of celebrating. So find friends that you can share your accomplishments with. Establish that you aren’t bragging or one-upping them. Create a place where its okay to tell yourself that you did a good job, and to share that with someone else.

Those moments of celebration can help to motivate future achievement. Success builds on success and every time that happens we should stop to recognize it.

83 things I want to tell you before I die

1. Laugh more, you’ll live longer 2. Be enthusiastic about life. It’s contagious

3. Hug your family more than you do

4. Do something new, don’t keep doing the same things, expecting different results

5. Be self aware, but not so self aware that you become self involved

6. Seek to understand and seek to be understood yourself

7.  Check your internal dialogue. How you talk to yourself, determines what you think of yourself

8. Visualize success. So you know once you get there

9. Set realistic expectations for other people, so you won’t be disappointed by their actions

10. Create a daily task list, so nothing gets out of hand

11. Schedule time for relaxation and enjoyment, it’s not a reward, its a need

12. Be brutally realistic about your present circumstances, and wildly unrealistic about your future

13. Get up early, you’ll be more productive

14. Find others who support you, not who want to change you

15. Don’t talk about yourself as much, instead listen

16. Seek to bring value to other people

17. Take care as to how you present yourself, that’s what people will judge you on

18. Life is a joyful, beautiful, messy thing. Don’t miss it

19. It’s not about you

20. Celebrate accomplishments. It’ll motivate you to reach more goals

21. Don’t assign motives to people’s actions

22. Help others, you will find more joy helping others, than helping yourself

23. Love whoever is right in front of you

24. Chase your dreams, you’ll feel more alive

25. Workout. You will age slower

26. Give random surprise gifts, they mean more

27. Try for difficult things and be okay to fail

28. Make good decisions, you’ll have to explain yourself to someone

29. Don’t worry, its incredibly silly

30. Compete with yourself, not others

31. Send handwritten cards

32. Eat to live, not live to eat

33. Take that chance, you’ll be glad you did

34. Dance, you'll feel freedom

35. Read classic literature

36. Choose your friends wisely, you will become just like them

37. Say “no” kindly, and often

38. Get rid of clutter, it slows you down, and holds you back

39. See past what people are, to what they can be

40. Go to church, your soul needs nourishment just like your body

41. Be grateful, its the surest way to contentment

42. You are beautiful. Don’t think otherwise

43. Work hard, thats how dreams are built

44. Love deeply. It’s risky, but it’s worth it

45. Take a personality test, you will discover a lot about yourself and others

46. Live inspired. You’ll never want to go back

47. Change the oil in your car as recommended

48. Don’t miss an opportunity to encourage someone

49. Share your stories, your dreams and your goals or we’ll never know

50. Wear jewelry, you should never feel frumpy

51. Regularly eat dinner as a family, it will keep you close

52. Ask about your child’s day and listen, or else someday you’ll want to know, and he won’t care to tell you

53. Doodle with sharpies, they spark creativity

54. Read to your kids, a love of books is one of the greatest gifts you can give them

55. Listen to music, it will uplift you

56. What you tell yourself is what you’ll come to believe

57. Make good habits, you’ll do the right thing without even thinking about it

58. Don’t be in a job you hate, Life is just too short

59. Recognize there are more than two options. Be creative looking for solutions

60. Get a color analysis, it’s a great investment

61. Think the best of people, if you’re wrong, oh well!

62. Don’t lead people on, in business or love. You are wasting their time and yours

63. Clean under your bed, you’ll find something you're missing

64. Smile, it’s contagious

65. Be extra kind to your cashiers and waitresses, they are serving you

66. Take care of your health now, before it’s too late

67. Lift weights and run. Don’t do one to the detriment of the other

68. Be generous, your money is worthless unless put to a good cause

69. Don’t allow others to shape your perception of yourself

70. Be yourself, we all so often aren’t

71. Join a group, community is powerful

72. "Bored" should be a nonexistent word, there’s so much life to experience

73. Be patriotic

74. Care about your freedoms because if you don’t, someone else will and you might not like it.

75. Keep your promises, even promises to yourself

76. Don’t live this life with bitterness and hatred, you are only hurting yourself

77. Get perspective. It’s the best way to avoid self pity

78. Be curious about life

79. Your life has meaning or else you wouldn’t be here

80. You’re not alone in your troubles

81. Don’t do anything you’d be embarrassed if your mother found out

82. Drink more water. Your body is 60% water. You’re just not drinking enough

83. Be authentic and genuine, and you’ll be irresistible

"That was just practice"

Zig Ziglar said  “Be hard on yourself and life will be easy; but be easy on yourself and life will be hard” If you’re disciplined, you’ll reap rewards regardless if you ever succeed with what you were trying to do.

Remember that diet you actually finished? Or when you spent the week focused and productive at work because of a deadline? Maybe you didn’t see the results you were hoping for. Maybe you didn’t make your deadline, maybe you didn’t lose that last ten pounds. But don’t despair! The sheer mental work it took to control and train yourself to do the right thing will stick with you long after the project failed. You recognized what you were capable of, and your mind “muscles” got stronger.

That mindset turns those seemingly failed attempts into a success of sorts. It became no longer all about the results, but about practicing and building the character qualities you need to be successful.

Think of it like a little kid playing table tennis. He swats the ball and it hits the net and rolls backwards. He looks up cheerfully, and says "Okay, now we're playing for real." That just now? Yeah, that was just practice.

The other side of the coin

Focus is one of the keys to success. Without focus your attention is divided and whatever your doing won’t be your best work, or your best self. If you wish to be great at something, you must devote all your attention to that.

Which will require you to eliminate less important things. You have to discipline yourself to NOT do things.

You have to consciously say no to things that could be fun or interesting but not necessarily what is going to help you achieve your goals.

Instead of forcing yourself to do more, you are actually forcing yourself to do less.

Its a different side of the same coin

It's Just Outside

Success is just outside of your comfort zone. What you want, (relationships, money, prestige etc) won't be achieved without a bit of discomfort. Sometimes that discomfort involves a total change in your approach and procedure, and other times, it involves working harder at what you're already doing. Whatever it is, your not going to attain what you want without taking those difficult steps to get there.

Guaranteed those steps will be just outside of whats comfortable for you. So if you want what you don't have, are you willing to step outside of your comfort zone and go get it?

Dress for Success

Its important that when interviewing or working somewhere, you dress just a step above everyone else. You should dress for the position you want, not the one you have. When you feel great and you look put together, you send that perception to those around you. People will make assumptions based on how you look. So what assumption do you want them to make? That you are sloppy, or careless? or that you are classy, and professional? Clothing says a lot about a person. Have your clothing reflect who you truly are.

Moments of Mediocrity

To be great, you must be okay with being ‘less than great’ at certain moments. Those who become successful, have had the determination and foresight to see past the moments of mediocrity, knowing that if they push through, they will eventually achieve their goals.

Frustration can convince people to give up. Often people give up right when they were close to a breakthrough.

True, you need to know when you’re fighting for a lost cause, and have the wisdom to withdraw gracefully. But often, people just lack the courage to continue because they aren’t seeing results fast enough.

Everyone has to start somewhere and it’s a slow climb to success.

For the athlete:  There will be numerous crappy workouts where you wonder if you should just retire to the couch and abandon yourself to soaps and bon bons.

For the Writer: unimpressive blog posts, and you second guess hitting the ‘publish’ button.

For the Mom: Days of endless bickering children, chicken pox, and cereal suppers.

For the Scholar: All nighters with mountain dew and stacks of paper as your only weekend entertainment.

Those days, it seems so much easier to just throw in the towel, give up and go home. But often your greatest moments of glory are just after those hours of unrewarding work.

You set yourself up for success when you push through the agony, writers block, smelly laundry, and bad grades.

When you refuse to give up, knowing that these moments are experienced by everyone, and often they’re enough to force those people to give up. But you're stronger than that, and it's your determination to push through and your willingness to have moments of failure which will lead to success.

What I Learned From No.

We all have moments in our lives where we think “I’m so glad my mother never let me do that ” Whether it was playing video games all day, dropping out of school at 13, or riding your bicycle without a helmet. Whatever, it was, we can all be grateful for a mother’s wisdom and guidance. So thanks Mom for not letting me............

buy Jeans for $50. That taught me to spend my money wisely.

Have whatever I saw in the checkout line. You taught me to avoid impulse buying.

Have a boyfriend at age 12. I learned that dating should be purposeful and serious.

  • Take whatever medication prescribed by the doctor. It taught me to research and ask questions.
  •   Eat junk food to my hearts content
  • Go tanning
  • Leave my room a mess
  • Wear makeup at 8 years old
  • Drive with teenagers
  • Stay up all night on the weekends
  • Gossip
  • Watch hours of television
  • Swear

Thanks Mom for not letting me Say, Do, Eat, Go, Wear, Watch, or Experience, anything that I wanted, whenever I wanted. It set me up for success in making my own decisions.

So here’s to my mom and the times she said No!