The Chief Fan of Your Potential

He had warm eyes, a firm  handshake and a great  laugh. He laughed often and infectiously. He had a way of presenting an idea (no matter how profound) as though it just came to him in that moment. He was professional with a touch of humor and familiarity. “Always a pleasure Miss Bethany”  This was  my  mentor Jeff Newland.

He didn't see people as they were, he saw them for what they could be. He was truly:

"The Chief Fan of Your Potential"

A note from Jeff to me:

Bethany, I think in the future you will still be dreaming of incredible things… but I think they will be the incredible things that others fortunate enough to know you will be seeking to accomplish with your support and wisdom. You will care about those things like you care about what you’re doing right now. Remember to surround yourself with people who need you to be at your unique and special best. Keep going Bethany.. I love what’s coming.

At that time, my focus was personal excellence. I wanted to be as close to excellence in every area of my life as I could be. I wanted to be smart and successful,  to create a great life for myself, and achieve all my goals. Those weren’t wrong ambitions, but there was something missing in this perfect little life….

Other people.

Now quite a few months later, I know what he was talking about in that note.

A star wants to see himself rise to the top, while a leader wants to see those around him rise to the top. -Simon Sinek

I want to introduce you to the new “Miss Bethany”

I believe when individuals with potential are convinced of the possibilities of their value, they will take action to reach their greatness.

I purposefully champion individuals with potential.

 Jeff not only saw that I was capable of giving that to others, he did that for me. He showed me my potential and supported my growth.

What a beautiful gift: To believe in someone until she believes in herself.

Thanks to a wise and caring individual, I had the guidance I needed to take steps toward  becoming my best self, in order to give my best to others.

My wish for you, is that you too can understand your unique value and feel supported to bring that to the world.

“Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.” -Edmund Lee

Circling back

Has someone offered  you advice recently? If a colleague has spent time coaching you or giving you solutions to a problem, the best way to thank him is to circle back. Let him know how you took his advice, what happened from it, and what you accomplished. if you show him that you followed through and his words made a difference, he will be quite pleased to continue providing wisdom because he's able to see the value he provided.

A simple "thank you" is easy enough, but remember to also show proof that what he did actually helped you

Real work

Real work, is bringing value to the world, not just doing what your boss tells you to do. Real work is seeing needs for other people and filling those. It's not pushing papers or punching a time clock. Real work is creating something that will benefit others. Something they will value and appreciate.

But to do real work you have to care. You have to care about people, and creating change. You have to want to and work to matter.

Be Honest and We Will Love You for It.

People talk about honesty all the time. "Be honest," they say. "Tell me what you really think." But when we talk about honesty, we often talk about it in terms of the negative. Be honest with how you're feeling, about how someone wronged you, or even about what you did that you’re trying to hide. My question is, how often do you speak your mind when you notice something positive? I would argue that people are far more apt to say what they really think when it’s negative or critical. People are quite able to voice how they’ve been wronged, and why what you did was NOT a good idea.

Often, in an effort to avoid awkwardness, no one will tell you the positive things you might mean to them. Of all the areas where we should be most transparent and most vocal, is in the area of positive encouragement. It should not be embarrassing or rude to say what you think when it will build up the other person. When others make you laugh, tell them! When they encourage or bless you, tell them! When you respect, admire, value or appreciate someone, give that person the satisfaction and joy of knowing it. You will not only increase the connection between the two of you, you will spur  her (or him) on to be better. I’m convinced that if people chose to remove their filter for positive comments, and chanced the awkwardness to tell a person his or her value, we would all be less apt to feel discouraged, unappreciated and unloved. The next time you notice a good quality in someone, tell her what you thought. Be honest! And watch her face light up.